Shades of Gray

Should “Gay Rights” be a thing? Maybe…..

Posted in Fairness, Gay Rights, General by Wayland Abernathy III on September 18, 2015

Ok, let me commence to putting my foot directly into my mouth for just a moment.

This story is ridiculous. It is depressing. It is heartbreaking. It is distressing. It is ludicrous. It is bizarre. It is unreasonable. It is senseless. And, dare I say, it is daft. Most of all, it is sad.

Gay rights is a thing in our country. While I see the beauty of believing such a thing, I cannot fathom why there is such a strong will to discriminate and commit oneself to being a different class of person based on the lifestyle you live or the person you marry or the color of your skin or your belief (or lack thereof) in God or any of the other innumerable reasons existing in our wonderful world today. It is sad that folks cannot get through their day without being offended or uncomfortable or otherwise out-of-sorts with the world around them. This is an everyday occurrence for me. Note that I am speaking of the ‘out-of-sorts with the world’ around me portion of that previous sentence. I do not remember being offended or uncomfortable with any statement or action made by another person. Even if they were speaking directly to me. Perhaps I am alone in such a distinction. Although I doubt it.

It is sad that a guy would lose his job for suggesting a movie to a co-worker. I have no idea if he made the remark off-handedly. I have no idea which movie he suggested. I have no idea if he cornered his co-worker in the unisex bathroom and said she should see the movie to get the evil demons out of her body. Based on recent box-office releases, I can make a wild guess, though. (Edit: After further research, he suggested the movie “Audacity”.) Is this a situation that will be filed under the politically correct banner? Should it be? I just think there are better ways to coexist with our friends and co-workers. Being uncomfortable because someone suggested seeing a movie makes no sense to me. Should I be uncomfortable because people suggested I listen to more rap music in high school? Should I be offended if that happens now? Should I be offended if someone suggests I read the Koran? Or the Talmud? Or a book on the beauty of same-sex marriage? Should I be uncomfortable if a co-worker suggests I see a lesbian movie? Where does this “Help me, I can’t handle my feelings” type of bs end?

I know I should be angry about this. I am not. My first response was, “What?! Seriously?” Then, I just shook my head in dismay and moved the line out a little further away from my reality and towards something that I fear I will never understand. Our world (not just our country) is changing. It is not for the good, either. If people must continue to separate themselves from others based on their life choices, then we will eventually become a world of villages that cater to distinct lifestyles and people that differ – at all – will be shunned and sent packing to the village they belong to and would feel more comfortable. That makes me sad.

It makes me sad that people are not left to live their lives and be free from the egregious effects of another’s uncomfortable feeling. Is it really necessary to simply keep your head down and limit your talking to work-related topics for fear of being fired if you suggest someone visit the local museum and check out the display of original superhero comic books? Far-fetched example, yes, but no more far-fetched to me than a lesbian feeling uncomfortable about the suggestion of a Christian movie. Again, perhaps I am alone in such a comparison. I doubt that, too.

As I slowly remove my foot, allow me to stress that I do not care how another person chooses to live their life. It is not my business. It is also not going against the grain if I simply desire to live my life free from the worry of offending another person based on a movie suggestion I make. Do I _really_ have to concern myself with such asinine thinking? The end-game, to me, is removing ourselves from the company of others and simply living and working through technology. Work from home. Have meals delivered. Have groceries delivered. And pick whatever movie you want and have that delivered, too.

That sounds crazy fun, doesn’t it? Obviously, it is not. It is crazy sad.